Six Cardinal Steps to Spice up Your Love and Relationship
We all want that special ‘someone’ who’s going to love us unconditionally, honor us and accept us for just being who we are in a relationship. Unfortunately though, if we’ve had more than our fair share of bad relationships through our lifetime, then it can become easy to suspect there’s no right person, just many different alternative of wrong doing.
In truth, extraordinary and successful relationships don’t come to people because they are lucky, unusually well-matched, completely similar or drowning in great chemistry. Extraordinary, loving, long-lasting, healthy relationships are the products of hard work, determination and the applied practice of the laws of love. (click here)
What makes a relationship truly extraordinary? And what weakens, or even destroys, a relationship?
According to Tony Robbins; “It all comes down to a few simple relationship rules. We all create rules — those things you believe have to happen in a relationship in order for you to be happy. However, when we have too many rules or our relationship rules are determined by what we can get out of the relationship, the relationship can quickly become a nightmare. The only rules that support an extraordinary relationship are the rules of love. These are the rules that remind us how to give more of ourselves and how to grow with our relationship. Relationship rules, to be successful and meaningful, should always be rooted in love.
If you want a relationship that magnifies the human experience, follow these 6 cardinal steps:
Build Strong Connections
As Tony puts it; never question the intent or identity of the person with whom you are in a relationship or the nature of the relationship itself. Just because you’ve experienced problem in the relationship doesn’t mean the relationship itself is a problem.
A wise person once said, “the best advice is your own”. But that doesn’t mean you cannot ask experts advice for your relationship to flourish. On the other hand sticking to your own advice will make both of you device a good means to making your relationship work out. Connection in a relationship cannot be over emphasize. You guys just have to make it strong and better.
Identify & Resolve Conflicts
Correcting your partner may not be the best option for a healthy relationship. It is better of to interrupt the deed in a fun and exciting way. Have in mind that your partner is your equal and all conflicts should be identified, discussed and resolved properly. Johanna Gohmann said: “Making fun of each other helps you to take yourself, and life, less seriously. Which can really cut the tension during tough moments (conflicts)”.
Compliment your partner
These are the times of fast foods, junk meals, proud men, fat women, small character, steep profits and very shallow relationships. Therefore, it is good for you to give honest and graceful compliment and appreciation to your partner when either she as the woman enters the kitchen and prepare a meal, or he as the man give you money to make the meal. Either way, no matter who you are, the key is to not get insulting or defensive about expressing your needs. Believe me it works magic.
Never compare your relationship with others
If you want your relationship to last, never do this otherwise your relationship will head for the rocks.
Value and respect each other
This should never be lacking in any relationship. Otherwise what is the essence of being in that relationship? What is driving both of you? Value and respect are the spark to building a fruitful and successful relationship. Always maintain both.
Make the relationship sexual
The whole point of being in a relationship as adults is that you can do whatever you want to do in the privacy of your home. And noisy sex is fun. Gabriella Paiella said; “The whole sexting process is pretty straightforward: You say your thing, they say their thing, maybe you exchange some photos, everyone has a nice time and hopefully an orgasm or two.”
I am the Founder and President of Young Leaders Arena. Formerly I was the Chief Editor and program co-ordinator at Walktall. Author of the upcoming Book; Success Recipe: Start up Tool-kit for exceptional business growth. I have written numerous articles on both leadership, business start up, entrepreneurship. I have served as thought leader in many societies and organisations, including the Forum on Extractive Industries Transparency Initiative. I obtained my post graduate from the prestigious University of Port Harcourt. I also have a Bachelors from the Delta State University, Abraka. Twitter & Instagram: @Charlessholokwu