3 Action Tips to Let Go of Your Past and Embrace Your Future
Letting go of the past can be difficult. It takes conviction and courage to embrace your future. But every moment presents an opportunity to create ourselves anew, to shrug off the things of the past and open ourselves up to the possibility of the moment and take action to create an incredible future we desire.
People who hold on to these past hurts often relive the pain over and over in their minds. The only way you can accept new joy and happiness into your life is to make space for it. Therefore, no matter what has happened to you in the past, remember that you are in control of your life and you have the power to make a great future for yourself.
A story by Cat O’Connor, on Mind Body Green website goes thus: “Two monks were on a pilgrimage. One day, they came to a deep river. At the edge of the river, a young woman sat weeping because she was afraid to cross the river without help. She begged the two monks to help her. The younger monk turned his back. The members of their order were forbidden to touch a woman.
But the older monk picked up the woman without a word and carried her across the river. He put her down on the far side and continued his journey. The younger monk came after him, scolding him and berating him for breaking his vows. He went on this way for a long time.
Finally, at the end of the day the older monk turned to the younger one. “I only carried her across the river. You have been carrying her all day.”
Brooding over the failures of the past without really learning from them can be disastrous. It has been known to leave many dreams underachieved. The problem with blaming others is that it can often leave you powerless. All your feelings are legitimate. It’s important to feel them fully, and then move on. Here are top 3 action tips for letting go of the past:
Decide to let go
Forgiving your past is a wonderful gift you can gift yourself. The past doesn’t just erase itself. It doesn’t just disappear into thin air. You have to let go. You have to learn from them and move on. You have to decide to let it go. If you do not make this conscious decision early, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from your past. Making the decision to let it go also means accepting you have a choice to let it go. To stop reliving the past pain, to stop going over the details of the story in your head every time you think about them.
Say positive things about yourself
Never allow the past failures to damage your self-esteem. Our mind is much harder to train than our body. You have to say positive things about yourself and in your future. The mind must be trained to kick out anxiety, fear and failures of the past and be able to focus up-front. Be careful about placing too much blame on yourself for your past failures. It is much better to think about past positive moments and apply them to your future. Then remind yourself every single day that you are a wonderful, worthy person.
Believe in yourself
Believe in your dream. Be confident. Set goals and take action. You’ve got all it take. Know that life is challenging and it takes lots of dedication and determination to achieve your life’s purpose. Believe that holding on does nothing in fact but hold you back from that purpose.
I am the Founder and President of Young Leaders Arena. Formerly I was the Chief Editor and program co-ordinator at Walktall. Author of the upcoming Book; Success Recipe: Start up Tool-kit for exceptional business growth. I have written numerous articles on both leadership, business start up, entrepreneurship. I have served as thought leader in many societies and organisations, including the Forum on Extractive Industries Transparency Initiative. I obtained my post graduate from the prestigious University of Port Harcourt. I also have a Bachelors from the Delta State University, Abraka. Twitter & Instagram: @Charlessholokwu