5 Step Guide for Controlling Perception like a Leader
“Once you shift your thoughts for the better, your world begins to shift with them.”– Marcey Shapiro
Behavior is the control of perception. No one can control how you behave. I like to tell you that your behavior towards a thing is a reflection of your perception towards that thing. It has nothing to do with people around you.
The good news is that whatever be our perception over anything, we can overcome them by keeping our emotions and feelings in check—no matter how much external events may fluctuate. Influencing our external factors with our internal self is the sure way to controlled perception.
The ancient Stoics had a word for this state: apatheia. It’s the kind of calm equanimity that comes with the absence of irrational or extreme emotions.
Follow these steps to focus on yourself, rather than reacting to external factors and blaming people for your bad state.
Check Your Emotions
“When you react, you let other control you. When you respond, you are in control.”― Bohdi Sanders
“What we feel is a choice.”― Piyush Shrivastav
“Don’t let people who don’t care about you, manipulate your mind, feelings and emotions or control how you think about yourself. Never give that much power to someone else.”― Karon Waddell
American astronauts going into space were first taught one major skill — the art of not panicking. We ourselves can borrow this one skill of the astronauts into our day-to-day activities.
Always be objective
“Each person does see the world in a different way. There is not a single, unifying, objective truth. We’re all limited by our perspective.”– Siri Hustvedt
To get the best out of life, we have to define that which we want. That is the beginning of success. Life is full of many surprises, many problems, but with good judgments we can resolve to focus on what is immediately in front of us. Our view towards that, give us dominance over the situation.
Alter Your Perspective
“Man does not simply exist but always decides what his existence will be, what he will become the next moment. By the same token, every human being has the freedom to change at any instant.”—Viktor Frankl
It is up to us to choose how we’ll look at things. How we perceive our environment. By doing this we can keep track of our moods, temperament and our behaviour. Think of it as selective editing—not to deceive others, but to properly orient ourselves.
Let the Present Moment define you
“If you abandon the present moment you cannot live the moments of your daily life deeply.”– Thich Nhat Hanh
“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.”– Buddha.
Focus on the moment, on what you can control right now. Not what may or may not be ahead. You have to ignore the past when it becomes a distraction. Believe me distractions are not what you need at this point. And whatever it will take to kick it out, you should embrace it and rid yourself of worry.
There’s always an Opportunity
“A good person dyes events with his own color…and turns whatever happens to his own benefit.”— Seneca
Every situation provides us with an opportunity if only we look can for it in the right direction. The positive direction!. Ensure you get going and seek out for opportunities. That business decision that turned out to be an impossible one see it as a challenge and a test of faith. Scientists never get right their experiment on the first try.
Remember to never, ever give up.
I am the Founder and President of Young Leaders Arena. Formerly I was the Chief Editor and program co-ordinator at Walktall. Author of the upcoming Book; Success Recipe: Start up Tool-kit for exceptional business growth. I have written numerous articles on both leadership, business start up, entrepreneurship. I have served as thought leader in many societies and organisations, including the Forum on Extractive Industries Transparency Initiative. I obtained my post graduate from the prestigious University of Port Harcourt. I also have a Bachelors from the Delta State University, Abraka. Twitter & Instagram: @Charlessholokwu